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Date: Tue, Feb 14, 2023, 8:00 PM
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If a Son-In-Law Pressures his Father-In-Law for Support, Is He In Transgression of Lo Sachmod?

Question: Reuven is being supported by his father-in-law. He feels that he should be getting more support and he puts pressure on his father-in-law to give him additional items that hadn't been agreed to. Is this an issue of Lo Sachmod?

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Answer: One might assume that this is not Lo Sachmod because he is asking to be given a gift of more support, not trying to buy a specific item.

However, Rabenu Yona says that compelling someone to grant you a gift is also a violation of Lo Sachmod.

The Chofetz Chaim writes that it is quite common for chassanim to badger their fathers-in-law for more than the agreed-upon dowry. He warns against doing this because, according to Rabenu Yona, it would be a problem of Lo Sachmod.

Rav Moshe Sternbuch (Teshuvos V'Hanhagos) suggests that this may not be a problem if the reason the groom is asking for the additional items is in order to provide for his wife and children. Perhaps this can be framed as a benefit to the Father-in-law as well, which may mitigate the transgression.